Someone wrote this down
Every family dinner has a scorecard, and I'm always losing. An older relative — the one everyone defers to — has a way of asking about my life that is really an announcement about someone else's. When are you buying a place, your cousin just did. Still at that job? It's said with a smile, in front of everyone, and if my face changes I'm told I'm too sensitive. I'm an adult. I like my life most days. But I sit in the car for a few minutes before every dinner, getting ready, and again after, recovering.
What they wish they’d said“I'm not going to answer questions that are really scores. Ask me something you want the answer to.”
What would help: ideas for a response
Something here sound familiar?
Writing your own version, only for you, is often the first step.